Choices Without An Option
We often like to be given choices but the choices may already have a predetermined option.
We may give our spouse a number of choices but we end up making negative comments for those we do not like resulting our spouse into choosing our personal option in the end.
This often frustrates our spouse and we wonder why he/she is angry since we have given them choices.
Our spouse may end up stop making choices since there is no option.
This article will state some examples to raise the awareness of giving others choices in a wise way to avoid dispute.
Dispute Over Clothes
As parents, we often tell our children to change their clothes as we are going out. We leave the decision of the type of clothes they want to wear to them.
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When our daughter wears an extremely short skirt, we immediately tell her to change as we are going to a formal function.
We did not really give a choice of clothes since there is an unknown boundary to them.
It is better to let our spouse or children know our acceptable range and choose their clothes based on our stated boundary.
This may still look like we have given choices and it would avoid arguments.
Dispute Over Jewellery
As husband or boyfriend, we may have taken our spouse to a jewellery shop and let her choose what she wants.
The problem comes when we have a limited budget and yet we are too embarrassed to let our spouse know.
The ego and pride of a man can lead to an argument when we make negative comments over a jewellery chosen mainly due to the price but we picked on other areas of the jewellery.
It is supposed to be a gift to please our spouse but it may end up as an argument.
The best way is to let our spouse know that we want to buy a gift for her but we have a certain budget for it.
This really provide them with possible choices within the budget and we do not have to keep looking at the price tag.
Dispute Over Food
When we head to a restaurant for a family meal, we may have told our children that they can choose what they want from the menu.
The problem may come when they order too many unhealthy food or the price is too expensive.
As parents, we do not want our children to fall sick and we end up restricting them by telling them that not to choose certain food while they tell us what they want.
The better way is to simply let them know the range of food that they are allowed to order like there should not be fried food.
Let the meal be a happy family bonding instead of dispute over what to eat.
In Conclusion
When we have certain preferred ones, we should always let our spouse or children know so that their choices can fall within our acceptable preference.
When we give negative comments for things that they choose, we are causing negative emotions to rise.
Let the given choices be within our preference if we have so that they can still choose without the need to reject what they have chosen.
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