How Do You Resolve Conflicts?
There have been various discussions on relationship; trust, love, compatibility, commitment and so on.
What about resolving conflicts in a relationship?
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In a relationship, there is bound to be disagreements, quarrels and disputes. How couples handle it matters alot in ensuring healthy relationships.
How to Resolve Conflicts
- Listen.
- Anger Control.
- Deal with your Ego.
- Learn to overlook faults.
- Ability to cope with each other inadequacies.
- Beware of third party.
- Forgive and forget.
- Resolve issues amicably.
- Open communication.
I had interactions with various persons and they talked about how they resolve conflicts in their relationships.
Mr A:
One of the things I taught my spouse is how to listen.
When we started, we had issues with communication. She was quick to defend herself and wanted to prove she was right.She was stubborn. At a point, I wanted to quit but I love her and decided to work on her flaws.
There was a day we went outing to a garden. I noticed she was in a better mood. I had a lengthy discussion with her on how we can resolve our issues amicably.
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~ Listen to your partner when he or she is talking. Don't interrupt between talks.
~ Instead of interrupting when a partner is talking,listen first then you can say your own.
Listen more and talk less.
~ Sustaining the relationship is more important than who is right. Two wrongs don’t make a right.
Mrs B:
My partner and I learnt anger control after we were married. Anytime, we had a quarrel, I will be so angry and say hurtful words to him. And this almost ruined our marriage.
Now, if I am upset with him- I keep quiet. To avoid saying words I might later regret.
He goes out for a stroll. After an hour or two, he returns and we settle.
Our tempers are calmer by then and we trash out issues gently.
Life is too short to be quarrelling and filled with anger. Peace of mind is key.
I have seen cases where disagreements turn turn out as slaps and fights.
These kind of persons need to work on their anger issues.
Hitting each other is not ideal.
To the married couples and those in relationships, how do you resolve conflicts in your relationships?
Please share your views.
Your opinions on this topic will be deeply appreciated.
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One thing that helps my husband and I (sometimes, not all the time) is actually to go to sleep angry (contrary to popular advice). Many of our disagreements are the result of exhaustion, so if we rest we then realize that what we were arguing about is truly the result of a tired brain.
One thing that was distressing to me about Mr. A's story was his statement that he decided to work on his wife's flaws. I think that in a marriage - or any relationship really - is that you can really only work on yourself and try to communicate openly and lovingly with your partner to encourage them to work on themselves.
I agree with your first point. My Aunt once told me that sometimes she and her husband sleep over the issue. Then, they resolve it the following morning.
Mr A was pointing out the flaws he tried to correct. If I had talked with the lady too, she probably would pointed out something she corrected him on.
I like the part where you mentioned working on ones flaws and lovingly encouraging ones partner to work on his or her flaws. Sounds like a better approach.
Thanks so much for stopping by.
In BTW: how are your girls?
My girls are doing well, thanks for asking!
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hi dear @esttyb ...thanks for sharing your tips with us...
my husband and i resolve our conflict just like the same with @rachelhanson10, we don't normally resolve it right away when it's a big issue. I will sleep it over and husband knows that I'm really mad when this happens. However, it is definitely not gonna take 2 days not being resolved. I seldom get upset with something so he's always be the one to approach me first. If i know it's my fault, i don't let an hour or minutes pass not saying sorry to him.
Listening and doing something about the "issue" is very important in resolving the conflict. I've proven it myself with my husband. :)
Thanks so much @dynamicshine for sharing your experience. I have learnt a thing or two from you and @rachelhanson10.
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