Why can't I change?
"Why can't I change?", a question we've all asked ourselves at one point or the other in our lives.
Why can't I stop doing this or that( I don't want to specify; you know it).
There are some bad stuff or "sins" we have been doing for so long that we feel it's now part of us; there's no way we are stopping it probably because we have tried many alternatives to quit doing it but they've all proven futile.
Sometimes we say to ourselves "I own myself, I'll quit doing this or that when I want, it's my own body, I can do this", but no, the habit goes on and on, it thrives even. We just can't.
Usually we wish God Himself would take over our body and and control us of where we go, what we take in or what we do to our body, but no, it doesn't happen like that. God has given us our will to do what we want so it just cannot really happen that he will just come into you and control you.
Its true you might have tried many ways to change but it's not working.
Have you ever asked yourself "Do I really want to stop?". Do we want to stop or we enjoy it still? Sometimes we pray about a change in our actions or behaviours but deep within we don't actually want to stop.
As believers, we have to know, God is capable of doing anything, nothing is too big for Him.
So you might have prayed to Him but you're still you probably because your mindset isn't a remorseful one, you don't really mean it when you say "God, please help me stop it".
For example, a prostitute who prays about her addiction might think "but that's where I gain my money from" or another person might say "but it makes me feel good".
All we should know is that, once it's against God, it is a sin and when we want to stop, we should psych our minds in that manner.
Making up your mind of changing your behaviour with no reluctance and fixing your mind on God and God alone as your helper, you can do away with your bad habit or deed.
It's my hope that you understand the little message that I'm trying to share here.
Remember, your words alone can't do much of a change,but it depends on your heart and mind.
God be with you and bless you.
One simple trick I learnt is to change the way you talk about the thing you want to stop. Instead of saying "I'm trying to stop eating 12 donuts at a time", you say "I don't eat donuts". It's a strange psychological trick that seems to work well.
Or "I always take the stairs" instead of "I'm trying to take the stairs".
You're right, that if you can't stop doing something, it's because you don't really want to. There's a big enough part of you that doesn't want to change. If you really, truly want to change something about yourself, then you do.
That's so accurate. I hope people read this, your trick will really help