101 Ways to happiness - #14 Control
Not being spontaneous is one of the things, which is nowadays a weak point of many people. A constant battle with time is pushing us to the border. And hearing that I'm sometimes a control freak, from others mouth, is a bit harsh. But thinking about it I just realize that it's true. I can't remember when I was spontaneous. As long as I remember I wanna know and plan everything in advance. I can't stand a chance to not know where and why am I going or not even have a backup plan. Of course, I know that I cannot predict everything in advance, that that simply isn't possible, but I still notice, that I sub consistently try to control my life.
It's interesting that when I look back and see my past, I can notice that sometimes not having a prepared plan B wasn't such a bad idea. To have the whole complete puzzle of my life in advance is just mission impossible because the pieces are coming together and going back apart all the time.
If you are a fan of control and willful choice, you might say I'm wrong, that there is no control of our life, just a bunch of conscious decisions like choosing a partner, job, hobbies, friends, a way of life, etc.. But is that really true? I think that the planning of life isn't possible. Life is full of surprises, it's uncontrollable. Even though I think I have everything under control anything can happen. People are getting sick or even dying every day, they make random decisions and shock self and others and under different circumstances al the wishes can change instantly. Also we cannot forget about the power of nature, where the human plans don't stand a chance.
Life isn't just a screenplay for the movie, and we are not the one and only character in it, but there are many other factors and people, who will do and react by their own wishes. That's why exact control of everything that happenes in our life just isn't possible. And that's the reason the life is exciting. You must know there is no control, just go with the flow with our mind and hand with hand with important changes, adaptations and even good or bad surprises of life it's self.
"Just know, that you can't control everything that happens in your world, but you can control your reactions and choices."
Photo made in August 2012 with my KODAK EASYSHARE M530 Digital Camera
Great message, thank you!
Beeing spontaneous brings many advantages.
I think you should always decide as fast as you can.
Your first thought is mostly the right one.
If you spend too much time thinking about everything, you just don't start achieving your goals.
Always remember that fast decisions can bring mistakes, but mistakes are also good for you to learn and make it better next time.
So have a nice weekend :)
You said that right. Like you said, when you think too much about something, then you just complicate everything... You too have a great weekend!
Thank you
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Very nice word
We simply think that we control our life, but in reality it is our live that controls us.
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It's true. Usually, we don't even realize how helpless we are. Especially, when something goes teribly wrong, like sickness or natural catastrophy.
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Great photo @emmamia.....it definitely reflects your topic. Water just is. It goes where it's going - with the flow. In the moment. It doesn't plan, or pursue an agenda. It just is.
You are very correct about what you can control and what you can't control. Your response to life and people is within your control - you can't control your environment just how you react or respond to it.
Good one today again!! Are you going to 100?