Friends relationship

I have a girlfriend who meets an outspoken bastard. He's so stupid, cruel, and generally unpleasant type that alone lowers the average level of positive in my town by a couple of points. Former military, of course. When he drinks, it becomes completely unmanageable. And he drinks often, because his life is completely dissatisfied, considers himself categorically undervalued, and tries to pour alcohol on this discontent. At the same time, he grabs a couple of mugs of beer, so that his visor falls and he already rushed to beat someone's face, then dance on the table, then try to jump off the balcony, and then puke in the corridor to the guests' clothes. At the same time, they do not like each other for a very long time, there is no normal sex there, no respect - it's an eternal pouring of scrapes, fights and srains on each other. Now he works as a driver, earns something there, but very little, all the expenses, count on it. I can not stand him, he really worries me and sometimes I just want to kill him. I see that my friend is falling into hell when she is with such a person in a relationship, and I do not know how to explain it to her, because she says she loves and respects him (and the next day she can cover with obscenities in the presence of acquaintances and strangers), and now began to think about family and stability. Paramampam! It hurts me to see everything, we have been friends for a very long time, from school, and she is a very good person, and so she takes away all prospects from herself with a slight movement of her hand and drives herself into a story with a potentially terrible end. She knows about my attitude towards him, and always tries to whitewash him slightly in my eyes, but I never drip on her brains about this, I do not say anything at all, the maximum - once I refused to honor him, just did not come to him to the party, and when they quarreled very much - asked her leading questions, but she did not express her personal opinion, just let her down to the fact that she herself realized the situation.

The second friend, on the contrary, meets a very nice guy. He is kind, flexible, tries to take care of her, they always go somewhere together. At the same time, we graduated from one college, and I know her mother earns very well, and they can afford a little more than usual. Well, the guy did not go to the university, because his parents did not have money to pay for studies, he worked in non-prestigious jobs, although he is very clever. So she humiliated him from the very beginning. Then she humiliated him a couple of times in public, as a result, almost broke up, but still did not part. On the basis of this eternal humiliation, he became completely insecure and jealous, it is clear that he is very nervous when with her in public. Today she expressed my discontent that he gives her not enough expensive gifts, and she is not indignant at the gifts themselves, namely their low price, because relatives give things much more! And frankly admits that he does not like, just meets. What for?

At the same time, both girls are cute, intelligent and in fact have many prospects, but they are hurling themselves alongside unloved persons. All these conversations on equal marriages - I believe that they are very justified. And it's not about equal incomes, but in education, qualification and intellect. If you teach at a university, then it will be very hard for you to live with a laborer. This difference is very visible, and it's foolish to think that this will all be smoothed out. The saddest thing is that these girls do not see that their place is next to other people, in principle - they both came from our criminal-depressive town (and me too). And the fact that you need to have other relationships, strive to reach a different level, probably find yourself a man on the shoulder - it does not occur to them. If I said the same to them in person, they would be very much offended and stopped being friends with me. And on the one hand, I understand that to climb into someone else's life does not make any sense, it's an ungrateful thing, and on the other - they are my friends, nevertheless, and I do not want to look at the way they diligently condemn themselves to awful future.

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