HOW TO BE HAPPY IN MARRIAGE ??

TEXT: ECCLESIASTS 9: 9

IT WOULD LOOK LIKE THAT PHRASE TODAY IS DAY OF FAIRY TALES, WHICH IS A SIMPLE UTOPIA, SOMETHING UNREAL AND UNCERTAINABLE.

BUT WE HAVE TO UNDERSTAND A THEOLOGICAL AND SPIRITUAL TRUTH: EVERYTHING THAT GOD DO IS GOOD, HE CREATED THE MARRIAGE UNION WHY MARRIAGE IS GOOD, GOD DOES NOT BELIEVE MARRIAGE FOR THE SUFFERING OF MAN OR WOMAN, GOD DOES NOT BELIEVE MARRIAGE TO AMARGATE THE LIFE OF THE CONJUGES, GOD CREATED MARRIAGE FOR HIS FELLOWSHIP, FOR HIS HAPPINESS, FOR MUTUAL CARE, AND FOR THAT UNION TO PRODUCE CHILDREN WHO ARE A HERITAGE OF GOD.

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BUT TODAY REALITY IS VERY DIFFERENT TO GOD'S PLAN, MANY MARRIAGES END IN DIVORCE, MANY PEOPLE HAVE FEAR OF MARRIAGE, MANY PEOPLE ARE MARRIED BUT LIVE FRUSTRATED AND BORED, MANY PEOPLE ARE MARRIED BUT ALWAYS IN THEIR MIND IS THE OPTION OF DIVORCE OR SEPARATION AS THE ONLY WAY TO BE TRULY HAPPY.

WE HAVE TO UNDERSTAND THAT MANY TIMES IN MARRIAGE RELATIONS EXISTS A LOT OF SELFISHNESS, AND THAT IS WHY SOME CAN SAY: I AM HAPPY WITH MY MARRIAGE, BUT THE KEY TO MARRIAGE IS TO BE HAPPY BOTH, NOT ONLY ONE OF THE TWO SPOUSES, POSSIBLY ONE IS HAPPY AT THE OTHER'S COAST AND THAT IS NOT GOD'S PLAN.

WE HAVE TO UNDERSTAND THAT HAPPINESS IN MARRIAGE IS NOT A MAGIC FORMULA OR SOMETHING SIMPLE TO DO, BUT IT IS A DAILY JOB, IT IS A COMMITMENT OF BOTH SPOUSES

SEE IN THE WORD OF GOD HOW WE CAN BE HAPPY IN MARRIAGE IN THE DIFFERENT EPOCAS OF LIFE.

I) THE KEY TO A HAPPY MARRIAGE IS THE UNION BASED ON LOVE (ECCLESIASTS 9: 9)

THE VERSE IS CLEAR: ENJOY LIFE WITH THE WOMAN YOU LOVE! ONE OF THE GREATEST REASONS WHY THERE IS BITCHING IN MARRIAGE IS THAT WE DO NOT JOIN THE PERSON WE LOVE AND WHO LOVES US, BUT WITH THE PERSON WITH WHICH WE CAN HAVE SEXUAL RELATIONS, OR THE PERSON WHO CAN KEEP US ECONOMICALLY WELL, OR WITH THE PERSON WHO MORE ATTRACTS US PHYSICALLY.

LASTLY FOR MOST OF TIMES WE CONFUSE LOVE WITH EMOTION, AND EMOTION IS PASSENGER, CAN NOT SUSTAIN OR SUSTAIN A LASTING RELATIONSHIP, LOVE IS THE ONLY THING THAT CAN FACE AND OVERCOME ALL THE OBSTACLES OF LIFE AS WE SEE IT IN 1 CORINTIOS 13 AND ALL ITS CHARACTERISTICS.

II) FOR THE HAPPINESS OF MARRIAGE IT IS IMPORTANT TO ESTABLISH AN INDEPENDENT HOME (GENESIS 2:24)

MANY OF THE PROBLEMS THAT ARE CREATING CONFLICT BETWEEN THE COUPLE ARE GIVEN TO HAVE TO LIVE WITH THEIR PARENTS OR FAMILY MEMBERS IN THE SAME HOUSE, THE NOT TO HAVE PRIVACY, THE NOT TO BE ABLE TO TAKE THEIR OWN DETERMINATIONS, THE NOT TO BE ABLE TO RAISE THEIR CHILDREN IN AN INDEPENDENT WAY BUT UNDER IMPOSITIONS.

III) TO BE HAPPY IN MARRIAGE IT IS NECESSARY TO CONTINUE CONQUERING MUTUALLY EVEN AFTER MARRIAGE (PROVERBS 5:19)

THE VERSE MENTIONS SOMETHING VERY IMPORTANT: THEIR CHARACTERS SATISFY YOU AT ALL TIMES, THAT IS TO SAY THAT THE CHARACTERS, THE KISSES, THE HUGGES AND THE MOMENTS THAT THEY HAVE AS WEDNESDAY MUST CONTINUE EVEN IF THEY ARE MARRIED, NOT ONLY WHEN THEY WANT TO HAVE A SEXUAL RELATIONSHIP .

THE HUSBAND HAS TO WELCOME HIS WIFE (DEUTERONOMY 24: 5): DETAILS, ATTENTIONS, INVITATIONS, COMMUNICATION, TIME TOGETHER.

THE WIFE HAS TO BE CONCERNED ALSO FOR NURTURING HER HUSBAND (1 CORINTHIANS 7:34): PERSONAL APPEARANCE, CARE OF THE HOUSE, ITS FAVORITE FOOD, ETC.

IV) TO BE HAPPY IN MARRIAGE IT IS NECESSARY TO ACCEPT OUR REALITY BUT TO DREAM AND PLAN TOGETHER FOR THE FUTURE (PROVERBS 15:15)

ACCEPTING REALITY MEANS CONTENTMENT, MANY TIMES THE CAUSE OF UNHAPPINESS IN MARRIAGE ARE OUR EXPECTATIONS NOT FULFILLED, THE REALITY IS VERY DIFFERENT TO WHAT WE THOUGHT, BUT WHEN WE HAVE CONTENTMENT AND ACCEPT THAT REALITY WE CAN BEGIN TO DREAM.

WE CAN NOT HAVE DIFFERENT EXPECTATIONS, WE HAVE TO DETERMINE TO WALK THROUGH THE WAY OF MARRIAGE WITH THE SAME OBJECTIVE, WITH THE SAME DREAM TO BE ACHIEVED (AMOS 3: 3)

V) TO BE HAPPY IN MARRIAGE CHILDREN MUST BE A REASON FOR UNIT NOT OF DIVISION (TITUS 2: 4)

MANY TIMES THE PROBLEMS IN MARRIAGE COME WHEN THE HUSBANDS FEEL DISPLACED FROM THE LIFE OF THEIR WIVES BECAUSE OF THE CHILDREN, THE WIFE IS COMPLETELY TURNED TO HER MOTHER'S WORK AND FORGETS HER WIFE'S ROLE.

THE HUSBANDS HAVE TO ENJOY THE MOMENTS OF COLLABORATING WITH THE AGING OF THE CHILDREN, THE WIVES HAVE TO ALLOW THEIR HUSBANDS TO INVOLVE IN THE AGING.

VI) TO BE HAPPY IN MARRIAGE, IT IS NECESSARY TO BE SAID ADMINISTRATORS OF THE FAMILY ECONOMY (PROVERBS 22: 7)

THE BIG PROBLEM OF MANY MARRIAGES TODAY IS THAT WE BECOME SLAVES OF DEBTS.

SATAN HAS BEEN ACHIEVED THROUGH MATERIALISM AND AVARICIA PROVOCATE PLEITOS AND DIVISIONS IN THE MATRMIONIO OF MANY COUPLES, EVEN A CHRISTIAN COUPLES.

YOU CAN NOT LIVE HAPPY WHEN YOU DO NOT HAVE ENOUGH OR FOR THE FOOD OF THE FAMILY, FOR THE BASICS.

A WIFE CAN NOT BE HAPPY WHEN A HUSBAND DOES NOT WANT TO WORK, WHEN A HUSBAND IS NOT RESPONSIBLE FOR HIS FAMILY (1 TIMOTHY 5: 8)

VII) TO BE HAPPY IN MARRIAGE SEXUAL INTIMACY IS NECESSARY WITHOUT ABUSE AND WITHOUT HURTING THE DIGNITY OF THE COUPLE (1 THESSALONIANS 4: 4)

WE HAVE TO UNDERSTAND THAT MARRIAGE IS NOT A LICENSE TO DO WHAT WE DO WITH THE BODY OF OUR SPOUSE.

CAN NOT BE HAPPY A WOMAN WHO FEELS DEGRADED, HUMILATED, IN PRIVACY BY HER HUSBAND.

THE WORD OF GOD COMMANDS US TO GIVE HONOR TO THE WOMAN (1 PETER 3: 7)

VIII) TO BE HAPPY IN MARRIAGE YOU NEED TO UNDERSTAND THE IMPORTANCE OF THE SEXUAL RELATIONSHIP TO STRENGTHEN LOVE AND INTIMACY (1 CORINTHIANS 7: 5)

MANY ADULTERIES BEGIN FOR THE CONTINUES REJECT AND EXCUSES FOR PRIVACY IN MARRIAGE.

AN UNSATISFIED NECESSITY GENERATES DISCOMFORT, ANGER, UNTIL IRA.

WE HAVE TO REMEMBER THAT FOR A WIFE IT IS VERY IMPORTANT THE INTIMACY NOT ONLY THE SEXUAL RELATIONSHIP, BUT TO FEEL PROTECTED, CARED, LOVED BY HER HUSBAND, BUT MANY TIMES WE PREFER TO SEE THE TELEVISION, WE PREFER TO BE ON THE COMPUTER TO BE WITH OUR WIVES (SONGS 3 :1)

AND THE WIVES WHO CONTINUALLY PUT EXCUSES POSSIBLY WHEN YOU WANT TO SEEK YOUR PARTNER EITHER VERY LATE (ECCLESIASTS 5: 2-6)

IX) TO BE HAPPY IN MARRIAGE IN ALL EPOCH OF LIFE, WE HAVE TO LEARN TO BE PARTNERS (GENESIS 3:12 / MALAQUIAS 2:14)

THE WORD COMPAÑERO COMES FROM THE LATIN "COMPANY" IS SAYING SOMEONE WITH WHOM BREAD OR LIFE IS SHARED.

MARRIAGE IS NOT TO SHARE A SAME BED, BUT TO SHARE THE MOMENTS OF LIFE.

HAPPINESS COMES AS THE VERSICLE WITH WHICH WE BEGIN; ENJOY LIFE WITH THE WOMAN WE LOVE, ENJOY LIFE WITH THE MAN YOU LOVE.

BUT THAT IS NOT LEARNED AT THE TIME OF OLD AGE BUT FROM YOUTH, SHARE EVERY MOMENT, SHARE THE ILLUSIONS, SHARE THE SMALL DETAILS OF LIFE.