REAL TALK-DON'T PLAN YOUR WEDDING ON PROMISES
Marriage is a beautiful thing and the wedding ceremony is its entry point. This means that the wedding ceremony is also beautiful.
The coming together of two individuals to form a new life together and hopefully forever is deep and should be celebrated. When this celebration crosses the line though, that's where the trouble begins.
The news of a picked wedding date is always followed by excitement or a pretence of it so people say things they did not really consider.
"Don't worry, just send me your account number" , "Don't buy drinks o, I will cover everything", "I will bake your cake", "I will supply souvenirs", "I know a photographer friend, I will talk to him to do you guys free" and my favourite " I will buy the cow".
That is potentially, a wedding without food, meat,cake,souvenirs,drinks and photographs because after the initial rush of excitement (or again, the pretence of it), the brain settles and the eyes clear out, the real meaning of the commitment just made brightens with perfect clarity. A Big cow is worth more than the monthly salary of over half the society, this person is very much in this range and he hasn't even bought his clothes yet !. This is how it works in a lot of cases but they keep fighting to make their pledges a reality until the last minute when the nice ones come clean and confess, the not so nice ones just vanish and leave you hanging. Is this what you planned for yourself, your would be in laws and your bride to-be?
The alternative is to plan within the available means but most believe this will not be adequate. I know for a fact that happy events can be created from the most basic and leanest of pockets, the happiness does not come from what is spent but from what is felt. It is a lie to say that the money will not add spice to it but if you cannot afford it you don't need it. From this point, your basics are covered, anything else that comes in just upgrades the whole day.
Do not plan your big day on promises, matter of fact, do not plan anything on promises.
Peace
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Real talk @donkelly. No doubt, marriage is a beautiful thing; but it's so unfortunate that many often get carried away with the seemingly intrigues associated with wedding, forgetting that the wedding is just a ceremony, but the real deal is the marriage.
Like you said, "the wedding ceremony is the entry point of marriage".
And as such, it must not be planned on mere promises of others. This is very true because promises remain promises until something are done about them. I mean, the human nature cannot always be trusted because of its fickleness.
Someone who's wise will follow this sincere advice of yours.
Thanks for sharing.
Thank you @degreatmyke,your insight is alway deep and inspiring,you're a great man!!
Thanks bro, for the compliment.
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