Shaming Yourself [💰↻60%]
Shame is when I feel that I am bad. It is important to recognize how I become bad.
When you are ashamed, how are you shaming yourself? What words are you using iside your mind?
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Shame isnt limited to being shamed by acting awkward stuff, sometime we as people being more pisitive and being judged as joke. Shame comes within body by different angles.
Of course, you are right. And to feel the shame we first need to believe, that we made smth bad or we are bad.
No, we don't. Shame arises in many other situations than that as well, in response to many other beliefs.
Thank you for sharing and I would like to continue, if you don't mind. If you would give an example of "other situations" we can look deeper on the nature of shame.
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I have extensive training in a comprehensive model of emotions, and I can tell you that shame is not just limited to feeling that we are bad. Nowhere close.
Shame is the emotion that holds us to ANY standard for how we need to act or be, that we've internalized in our life (most often in childhood). It is the emotion that drives us to meet our own standards for how we want to be, so it is precisely the emotion that makes us honorable people.
It can have a toxic effect on us when the internal standards it is trying to uphold are unrealistic and/or damaging, such as "I need to be skinny in order to be attractive to others", or "I need to always put others' needs before my own". But even in this situation, shame isn't the problem... the internalized beliefs are the problem.
If you want to learn more about emotions of all kinds, I will be writing on them regularly. @TheUnlockedHeart
I agree with you and nevertheless we looking at the same direction. When you talk about "standards", I talk about non-compliance with own inner standards and I name it bad or "feeling, that I am not good".