anxiety and depression ITS OKAY!!
Hey steemians I want to start my First post of the day on Anxiety and depression :
This is something I have battled personally and want to help others!
Combating A&D ,I wanna jump right in to my Topic on being healthy internally :
We're in a new year and we all have goals and aspirations that I know we want to achieve but it makes no sense to us to go into it with the old toxic mindsets perspectives behaviors and even relationships .
If I knew then what I know now :
It probably wouldn't have changed that much- because sometimes It doesn't matter what you know or what you feel
it just takes over !
Death isn't just of the physical body death is of the ego , EGO DEATH
Alot of young people, Alot of people in general have this HANKERING for death who think I need to kill myself,
thoughts of suicide - those are not wrong- those feelings are not wrong to want to die to yourself to want to commit suicide is not wrong , Its just that your looking at it the wrong way.
It is not a physical suicide -It is not a physical death , It is a character and Ego death
Who you are today is no longer resourceful of who your going to be.
For you to fulfill your greatest purpose here on this planet in this lifetime- you have to have multiple deaths, Two immature versions of yourself , so that you can be REBORN as a stronger version of yourself, Thats how the process goes.
Things in this life have been in a cyclical fashion , Failure is a part of success YOU MUST fail you must break down to build up , You must go down to grow up ,
A truly successful person takes that wound and grows something of A better version of themselves - this is the growing stronger process
And some people without the perspective leave the wound to fester - how many people have an injury - psychological-emotional - in abuse or physical or born with ? , And they allow it to destroy them.
So many of us want to be successful for our own narcissistic DESIRES right ?
IT'S OK
if I start crying i don't think i'll ever stop -
If your going through a divorce right now or a financial problem right now - if your going through an illness right now and if your going through any form of crisis right now , I know you might not want to get out of bed in the morning it might be that bad - Please remember this :
Crisis come to serve the person who wants to use it as fuel - You have a choice
You can be a victim and let it break you or you can actually ask yourself:
How can I use this time in darkness which will not last because you know these dark times never last -
The real question is how can I leverage the PAIN ,how can i leverage the DARKNESS,how can i leverage the HEARTBREAK,
so it grows me so it makes me stronger, so it makes me wiser,so it allows me to TAP into the Greatest of virtues of Humanity.
*Pains always their because life is freaking painful but suffering is a choice *
And if you have gotten it in your mind that
YOU THINK THAT PEOPLE DON'T UNDERSTAND..... ( it's ok )- They don't
But you do - you know darkness, you know evil , but more important than that - ( YOU KNOW GOOD).
You know light - you know laughter and love better than anyone (imagine the Future ) If you are victimized by your thoughts you are victimized by your past. use your memories but DO NOT allow your memories to use you .
The first thing to recognize is whats happening is not a punishment, that it's actually an opportunity,
Most people pretend that it is not there pretend that it doesn't exist or try to do something to avoid feeling it
Please trust that it is leading you to so something greater - and know that !! .
Use your pain as an instrument for your greatest growth
- self embrace - embrace that DARKNESS , then there is moments when you CAN embrace and accept it , 5 years- 10 years from now when you look back on it , you'll see its a
Pivical moment in your development - OWN IT , don't look away from it , don't bury it in boose or pills,
LIVE YOUR LIFE..... EMBRACE YOUR LIFE .....WITH...
physical activities , nature , ju jitsu , sun , laughter , guitar , knitting , and with good memories , with cooking ,
and creativity do whatever it is that you find yourself at calm and ease and discipline -
DISCIPLINE YOURSELF !!!
So you can - FREE YOURSELF !!! move forward into the future .
Because you know your going through a difficult time right now , I promise you I assure you THE CLOUDS WILL LIFT
There is sunlight above those clouds- your just looking at the clouds right now and they WILL lift and crisis has come to teach you the big lesson your meant to learn to move to your next level and next chapter of your greatest life
There is an invisible Hand you play with whether you feel it or not, maybe I am the servant of information to remind you
in this moment right now what your experiencing does not feel good ,but it is good.
Please remember that you are build to shine- Things are coming your way-you are not average -darkness will pass -world class is coming because YOU ARE meant to FLY....
In life you will come across disappointments
You sure will and you will run across things that will happen in your life that are so wrong but have a little sane in the end EVERYTHING will be OK , and if its not ok remember its not the end.
You are stronger than what you are facing right now..........
Time to figure out whats the route of your issues
- the triggers , you may not be anxious or depressed you may be struggling with some sort of addiction - low self esteem maybe you struggle to assert yourself in situations and find yourself to be very passive and unable to verbalize how your really feeling - guess what it's time for yourself to find ROUTE of that issue, Is because your constantly being told your not good enough that your not going to amount to anything - find the route of your issue and cut the route because that's when you will be on the road/ journey to freedom .
COME CLEAN
By the time i broke free from depression i learnt to ask people for help (i still struggle now )
But coming clean and opening up sharing that route problem with someone else is a weight off your shoulder a sense of feeling that your not in this ALONE ! come clean to someone who has your best interest at heart
MOVE FORWARD
Take it a day at a time and don't beat yourself up " if you have a bad day "
SEEK HELP
It's ok to seek help from a medical perspective counselling friends family AGAIN , its ok to seek that help that you not only need but very well DESERVE ,
sending love to you all....
DEE
UPVOTE , FOLLOW , RESTEEM ,
Thank you for sharing this. I think this will be helpful to people. One thing that I've read is that anxiety shows up in two parts of the brain--it shows up in the instinctual side of the brain and it shows up in the part of the brain responsible for thought.
Recognizing this distinction has given me insights into the source of my own anxiety. There are times when you are anxious and you have no reason to be anxious. You just are and there doesn't seem to be any stimulus--internal or external. This anxiety is coming from the part of your brain that governs instinct.
Then there is the anxiety that comes from overthinking things. You obsess over something that you missed or something that you could have done differently. You obsess over what might happen and what you think is going to happen or something that has already happened, but was out of your control.
Sometimes your anxiety is a mix of both. Your instincts feed into your thoughts or your thoughts turn you into somebody who is instinctively anxious or anxiety is driven by your instincts and thoughts simultaneously.
Learning to feel and sense where your anxiety is coming from helps you understand your anxiety and work with it.
Thank you for the fabulous reply . It is true Anxiety comes in so many different forms . but i also did not know about the distinction side of it ,
I have suffered for many years and It has not been a pleasant ride a tall but finally learning to use it to feel normal whatever normal is and use to my advantage almost playing a game with my own Anxiety , tricking it to let me actual know what i want to do without the over thinking and over bearing pain it causes , So now i feel i am getting it under control its time to start helping others get theirs under control , :) be nice if we could become friends i will give you a follow and read on your posts xx
I will follow you as well and keep up with your postings. I won't be posting all that much as I am back in school now. I will be spending a lot of time reading the post of others and commenting.
I think that you and I would be good friends. I like authentic people and I feel that from you. You can learn a lot about people by the way they write and I am glad that you wrote this post because I think there will be a lot of other people that can relate to it. By starting this dialogue we can all throw things out there that can benefit all of us.
I am getting better at knowing, feeling, and sensing where my anxiety comes from, but I definitely have not mastered it. There are times when I know that I can work with it and use it to help me be better. Then there are other times where I have to work against it, around it, or fight it. Fighting is not ideal, but there are times when that might be the best thing to do. I have found meditation and exercise helpful when I need to fight it.
When things get overwhelming I tell myself that all things come to end. I now remind myself of that when things are good as well. This keeps me from being too high and too low. It also gives you a better appreciation for what is great in life because you know the good things are fleeting. It also gives you appreciation for your own suffering and the suffering others. You know that we all suffer and it is part of the human condition and that it is only temporary--nothing last.
me and you will be great friends , sorry for late reply this has only just shown up in my steemit ,xxxx
this is a very great post you have here. many people suffer from depression due to stress, inferiority complex, neglect, burden and so on.
it would be great people learn how to deal with this non-physical ailment which is even more catastrophic than the physical ailments. thank you once again
you are most welcome , its finding that go between in order to be able to take control its easier said than done , xx find that bridge to cross to taking control is physically and mentally tiring but know there is people around makes it alot easier to be able to accept
Emotional yet a strong post! Thank you for writing this, takes a lot of emotional strength and courage too! :)
Your most welcome @happycrazycon I had a very down morning yesterday and thought right take a stand against myself get it all out and it actually made me feel some what better in myself , I am glad you liked it xx
"In the darkest of times search for the light, even if there is none..."
-xyzposter
If one only remembers to turn on the light , :) x
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You are so bold to post this. Such transparency and honesty in your sharing. I am so interested to read this as I have just posted about "When adults cry". Well, we can be strong. We can be weak. and it is okay. Hugs to you although I do not know you personally. 💖
@iamjadeline Thankyou very much sweetheart , I will pop over to your pop and read it in a little while xxx