How to Make Friends and Influence People

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Today I have something interesting to share with you. During the COVID-19 period which was in 2020, during the lockdown, I came across a book titled 'How to Make Friends and Influence People by Dale Carnegie. This book was published in 1939. At first, I thought I wouldn't need such a book because, I mean, it is a basic principle on how to make friends with people. Then I decided to read it since I was bored anyway. After some time, I concluded that this is the best attitude adjustment material I have ever read, aside from the Bible of course. It taught on how to win all kinds of people to your side no matter how they are. It educates you on a lot of things we do so much unconsciously that drive people away from us. So instead of that, I am going to share 6 simple, but effective ways you can make people like you. I have tried it personally, and it worked, making me better understand people.

6 Ways to Make People Like You
Now, these ways are not necessarily ways that you must try to bootlick someone into liking you or influencing anyone unnaturally to like you. Not anything that desperate, These are very simple things you can do so easily, things you fail to do when you are supposed to do them. They are things even you would expect from anyone but wouldn't remember doing for another and this is okay. Let's dive in.

Smile🙂
Many people might think, "Hey, but I smile every day and I don't see anyone warming up to me." But the question is do you smile conditionally or unconditionally? To be honest, if you see a beautiful lady or a handsome guy on a bus who looks at you and smiles, how would you feel? Very good, right? It just lights up something pleasant in you. That smile works wonders on your mind and makes you return a pleasant gesture. When you smile a lot, you spark something in others that makes them want to talk to you more.

Smile

When you smile, the brain instantly thinks "Oh, that is a pleasant person, I want to know more about the person". Naturally, people will warm up to someone who seems happier to have others around him or her than a gloomy or moody person. They seem less approachable.
So when you see the sun today, smile, and people will instantly like you without any reason.

Be genuinely interested in others🤔
People generally are interested and that is very natural. That's the innate nature of humans. We most often forget others are like us. We tend to talk and talk about ourselves more to other people who also like to talk more about themselves. That way, you won't get to know about people that you talk to. People will lose interest. You must remember the golden rule about humans, No matter how they always like to be acknowledged in various ways. So in retrospect to that, people like to be listened to while they rave on and on about themselves. Be genuinely interested in what they talk about. It makes people feel like someone out there understands them and what they find interest in. It makes them feel like they are not alone, and that someone is paying attention. This makes people believe that you have their interest at heart and in effect, makes them like you. This strengthens bonds between people. Even outside the realms of social life, this is applicable in the job world. Once they know you are genuinely interested in what they talk about, they immediately get the notion that they are understood and can entrust you with a task just because they feel a connection with you and like you as a result. So, sometimes, when it counts, listen more, talk less, you can gain interest in people.

Talk in terms of other people's interests
This is related to the previously spoken point. This is the talk less aspect of it the principle. You need to talk in terms of the other person's interests. It gives the impression that you are listening to them. It makes people feel like, "Oh, this person listens to me and I have spoken a lot. Let me also find out about him or her."

Talk in terms of others' interests

To contribute to people's conversation, and let them feel someone is listening to them. Then they will like you without much effort.

Be a good listener👂
Listen to people. Understand them. Let them know they are heard. This makes them feel understood. This is related to the other points mentioned above. So I won't talk much here.

Make the other person feel important-and do it sincerely
People generally like honest compliments and hate flattery. Giving people a form of appreciation makes them feel good and somewhat important. As I said, all humans just love to be acknowledged by others. So praising them, and doing so when it counts only, makes them feel good and appreciated. But then don't do so just to gain favour from them. This is flattery, and, you can be hated when you are found out. So give honest compliments to people. Just for that, you might just be their favourite person.

Remember a person's name is the sweetest and most important sound in any language
A person's name is an important possession that they have. Remembering a person's name even after hearing it once is very impressive. Being able to call out someone's name gives the person the notion that you at the very least hold him or her in important stead. The exhilaration you feel when someone calls your name right makes you instantly like the person. Remember a name, and you will be remembered when an opportunity comes.

These are among a few tips I picked from the book. You can try some of them today, tomorrow or any other day. You will find that they help.

Thank you.