Why Some Are Frustrated. Contributed by @Olawalium
There are some frustrations that can be avoided. There are some things we shouldn’t bother ourselves with or try to force, and the moment we force it, frustration kicks in and it makes us all the more miserable. We need to let go of some things and learn to focus on those things we know how to do.
We are all different. We are all special. We are all gifted. We might not have the same gift, but no one is without something. We might not have the same starting, but we all have something to start with.
As earlier said, we are all different and we should focus on what makes us unique and different. We should learn to leverage the things that we do easily which others struggle with. We should learn to harness our strong suit and learn more in that area, rather than trying to be who we are not.
Imagine Shakespeare trying to sing? Imagine Beethoven trying to write a best selling romantic novel? Imagine me being a singer? Hahaha. Way more horrible, especially for those who know me. (Jokes aside, just needed to drive home a point). Imagine Bill Gates trying to do 100m sprints and Usain Bolt trying to build an application.
It is not like they can’t if they put their mind to it, but there are some people that are naturally gifted in an area, so finding what makes us tick should be our primary concern and focus. We can’t do all things, yes, but we should do the important things.
You need to find your place. If you can’t find your place, it will lead you to frustration when you are doing what you are not naturally gifted to do.
Imagine someone asking me to draw. I can’t. I can do the basics but I know I would be fooling myself doing that. Ask me to write, ask me to give advice, ask me to motivate someone, give me a topic and ask me to speak about it in a short notice and I would easily and gladly do it, without too much preparation. It comes easy for me.
What comes easy for you? Detect it and go ahead and do it. If you need more training after you have identified it, then by all means, channel all your energy there, rather than doing what you are not gifted or called to do.
We often want to “try” so many things out which often leave frustrated. We try to covet another person’s talent because we feel it leads to more money than what we know how to do. This is a clear way to get frustrated.
What others do naturally will come at an extra push from you, and what you do naturally will come as an extra push for others. Not like it is bad to try to do or learn what others are naturally gifted to do, it only means you have to do extra. If your motivation or what motivates you isn’t deep and high enough, you will get easily discouraged and frustrated when problems occur along the line.
I was able to continue writing and speaking to people without money until Steemit came and I wasn’t disappointed because I find it easy to do. It is natural with me. Find what you do naturally and leverage on it. Channel all your energy into it and you will get more results than doing what you are not gifted to do.
Be who you are. Everyone else is already taken. Find out who you are and be intentional about it.
When I was in Secondary School (High school). We were given the option of choosing Geography or Literature. I picked Literature, while some picked Geography. We have to know our strength and what motivates us, knowing these helps us in reducing the frustration we encounter along the way.
...to be continued...
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Thanks for the wisdom bro...
You just define frustration with this post and it is simple enough for all to understand, nothing frustrate more than trying to do what you are not call to do. Even if you are doing it at one hundred percent capacity, you might have results, but you won't have the results of those that were called to do it.
A first class art student will definitely struggle if put in science class simply because he is not called into science.
The best way to stay free of frustration is to stop doing what you are not good at and start doing what you can do better. Their was this wise man that said if you make your job round your hubby, you won't have cause to work again for the rest of your life.
Don't be confused with the several abilities you have, we can all do more than a thing, but their is always one of them we can do better. Go for what you can do better than anyone else, then you will become a world best at it.
Trying to do what others are doing would only make you a copy of someone else and not the original copy of yourself.
You can avoid frustration if you can invest more in what you can do better and not what you are struggling to do.
Thank you @olawalium and @communitycoin for this powerful advice.
Absolutely brilliant!. Good comment bro. Thanks a lot.
You are welcome bro, thanks for the kind word bro...
I agree with you on this, I believe we are too preoccupied with some feelings that wasn't to be taken too serious, frustration comes in to destabilize our plans for a particular things we venture in sometimes. We sometimes get frustrated not because we don't plan well but a lot of fail attempt which now encompass a lot of deep thinking. We should try and do away with some useless or unfavorable feeling if we want to get our level of frustration to a minimal level.
We should involve and engaged more in somethings we could be 90percent sure so has to minimize the extent of lost. We often got frustrated out of trying we will think could fetch us money and we later regret why venturing into such in the first instance. We should always do things we believe it is more beneficial that we have one say or the other on (experience) , though that doesn't mean we should try new things but it should be minimal, all I can say is that we have to always develop on the things we know already then just venturing into something that we never have idea on.
That is it, you got it all right. We should channel our totality in something we love to do more then engaging in things we have little or partial say on.
Frustration/anger is an emotion that we naturally feel.There are numerous reasons why we become frustrated/angry. The most common reasons for this feeling is related to our personal worth, needs and basic convictions. if we perceive that we are not being acknowledged or feel as though our needs are unmet, we experience frustration/anger. Another contributing factor to anger is related to our values, beliefs or convictions being challenged or ignored. Our perception or interpretation of events are the contributing factors to the feeling. Thus it is psychological and not a result of biological changes that cause the anger. However our body does experience biological changes when we become frustrated i.e. heart rate increases, sweating increase in blood flow to the hands.
Good one. Yes, we have various ways by which we can be frustrated and i only highlighted one because it is a broad topic and it is about knowing your place. Most things we see around frustrates us also hahaha.
Thank you for sharing other ways by which people can get frustrated. Much appreciated.
You can overcome the frustrations by talking to the nearest person or doing physical activities such as walking, cleaning the house, shouting, or even punching the pillow. Physical activity can help ease muscle tension and reduce anxiety. In addition to physical activity, other steps you can take to control your emotions and frustrations are:
Relax and empty your mind for a moment. Relax yourself by taking a long, regular breath, close your eyes and focus on what makes you feel relaxed. In addition, you can divert your mind momentarily to other activities, such as playing with pets.
'Worry' or pour out your heart to friends you believe in or who experience something similar will be helpful. Grumbling, complaining and laughing together can help get rid of frustration.
Speak loudly to yourself and write down your feelings. You can even use the recorder and play back what you have recorded. This will help you hear your feelings as if you are listening to others. Identify possible problems and solutions, and do not focus on what makes you frustrated and angry. You can also make a list of everything that is the problem and bother you. Then decide which ones can be fixed or changed, and note how to change or correct them.
Go back to your problem, but this time do it calmly and in a new way. Choose and make a realistic decision and stick to it. Then act according to the decisions you have made. This is one of the most difficult yet important steps.
Try not to think about it too much. Do what you can, whatever happens. And do not spend your time and energy on it. However, think about what you want to do now to eliminate these frustrations. To control your emotions when frustrated whack, you can do positive and creative things like exercising, relaxation, meditation, playing music, dancing, painting, or vacationing. And stay calm in the face of each of your problems. When the emotions begin to peak in a deep breath and think before you speak so as not to regret what you have said.
Good comment but you drifted off from the main point of the post which is focusing on people who get frustrated not leveraging on their natural talent.
Thanks as always.
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Well, good points you have highlighted there, but it doesn't appear to me that you read the post.
You're talented @olawalium and I can't agree more with your article. It's so true that we often get frustrated when we are in the field we don't like. I also enjoy the examples you gave (like Usain Bolt trying to be a programmer?? 😀) which depicit your point. More power to your elbow bro. But, I need to know something, and that is leverage. Could you please tell me more about it?
Thank you for your kind words. Leverage is taking advantage of what is available to get a desired result. If you have a good voice, you can leverage on it by enrolling for music lessons so you can learn how to put that good voice to use. That's a simple way to explain it.
Not only the simple way, but the best way to explain it as well... Lol
Well-done bro
I think I understand. Thanks
If Usain Bolt should design a program, it would be the fastest, even faster that what it is meant to do... Lol
Just kidding
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I do not know .....
Just go to the point of frustration. The frustrations that make me want to burn He wants to burn and burn them. Sometimes it seems Beautiful and happy life with the birth of hope on the beautiful world
Finally I realized that ... ... frustration is the creation of people only.
Frustration and stubbornness can not touch him if people walk in the path of truth and righteousness. The wise people gave both happiness and misery to the people. The one that gets the same will get.
If you want happiness, the only way ... is the path of truth. There are many ways of sadness and despair. Hatelei meet anyway.
What i can pick out from this is that frustration is our creation, that is, it is our own doing and you are right and that is why it was stated above that when we choose to do what we are not gifted to do or that we are opened to learning, we get easily discouraged and frustrated.
Thanks a lot brother.
Yes, frustration I made myself. If we fail in any work, we do not disappoint. But he does not know that he is facing danger. thank you brother
God made something called talent with each everyone of us, at least one!
And this is what we should focus on, not someone else talent
Try and focus on what you know how to do most, you can't ever be as good as someone else. Focus on your dreams and you will be great, you don't need to worry on how to be like someone
This is good. You are right brother, we should focus on what we can do easily and harness it well.
That's the short cut to stay out of frustration bro...
You are very much correct dear friend, their is always something we are very talented at, detecting it is the first step to happy and fulfilling life.
Forcing ourselves to do what we are not good at is like trying to be a copy of someone else and not the original copy of ourselves.
And when we use the talent well, there is tendency of having more. Finding ourselves by finding our talents is the best
Very correct, nothing added and nothing subtracted
Sometimes our goals can look too ambitious and this can be discouraging. But it is important to remember that we never really know what we can achieve before we try it. This interesting and nostalgic poster by Laura Gomez reminds us to do it because you never know what you will accomplish @olawalium. :)
Exactly, we never know what we can achieve unless we try it and we should always look inside us, find out what we can do naturally better than others without stress and we should channel all our energy into it.
I agree with you @olawalium, Success is my best friend. :)
I am so blessed by your powerful write-up...This is really the real truth..The moment we try to emulate or copy others, we tend to start failing and eventually gets frustrated.... "Everyone is gifted in their own unique way". Its now left for us to figure out our gift...Nice one sir @Olawalium
Love that. We are all gifted and unique in our own way and it is left to us to find out.
Thank you for that and your kind words.
You are welcome...its a pleasure...
I love innovative things and motivational Write-ups as well...Am good at writing them too ...so thumbs up👍
Really appreciate that. Hoping to read from you soon as well.
That's just it bro.
It is up to the individual to detect. Don't do what people think you are good at, do the one you know you are good at.
Wonderfully written superb! Article
You just lifted a salient part of me
You are awesome, Bro
Being a while I disturbed you
Hahahahaha been a while surely and i always welcome your disturbance. Hahaha. Thanks a lot brother, and how have you been?
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That you enjoy been troubled.... Lol
Those that want to trouble you would be tired before you. Smile
Hahahah, I love your comment bro.
Go ahead and disturb him, he love it... Lol