Bargain III, Contributed By @Olawalium.
…continued… from part 1 and part 2.
Marriage is secondary to him. What if she got pregnant and the guy fails to marry her? What would she do? These are the things she needs to consider before taking any step further. Left to me, I wouldn’t want her to marry this guy; not because he is terrible, but because his idea of what marriage stands for is archaic. Why hide under getting pregnant before marrying a lady when you can easily get a girlfriend and let her become your baby mama, which is the trend these days? Marriage is not to be used just solely for giving birth; other aspects of it must be valued and appreciated.
You are not to use it as a means to free sex too, because if you lack the self-discipline from the start, you will still struggle in marriage because there would come a time your spouse would deny you sex, either because he or she is indisposed, tired or for the ladies; having a monthly flow, or when she just give birth. So, does that mean you will go around sleeping with others because you are not getting it from your spouse?
He is a smart man and I give that to him. He left his other wife because she couldn’t give any kid and decided to go for this younger lady because he felt her chance of procreating is very high. This isn’t a case of love, this is purely an arrangement; a bargain. If she doesn’t deliver the baby, then love is not guaranteed and when she finally gives birth, she can be sure he will pour all his love on the child(ren) and not on the mother. With this little arrangement, there is no telling what he might be up to. What if after giving birth he decides he wants two or three more? If she doesn’t deliver, then she is still back to ground zero.
What will happen if she gives birth to a girl? His arrangement would change and he will start putting pressure on her to give birth to a boy. If she is unable to deliver, he would go out there to look for someone who will give him that.
…to be continued…
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@olawalium sir!
You article is on a very sensitive issue, which is in the form of sarcasm on the prevailing deal in society. Those who understand marriage arrangements to create a child boy. We should not look at women with such inferiority. He is also entitled to respect, he also has personal problems.It is not appropriate to bring a second wife for the desire to create a boy, because there can not be love here. This is a compromise in a way. After receiving the child, the value of the wife will be zero because the person will give his love to the child.My personal opinion is that if we take steps for marriage, then keep respect and love towards each other for life. Whether it is a child or not, is not satisfied with the sexual life, and do not think about bringing a second wife. If you always think, it is not a marriage but a deal that is set for the physical needs and personal benefits. .
Marriage should never be made as a deal, if not the commitment part of it would be left out and the whole thing would be messed up. Love and respect would be thrown out as well and the joy that comes naturally would be forced. It is not a nice feeling.
Yes my friend @olawalium ,you said it right that the lady should stay away from such a person who asks her to give birth first. He is not a right man to get married.
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The man has gotten the whole idea of marriage wrong. I know he is trying to play safe with it but when life happens, what would he do? chase her away? It is a delicate part and for her sake; if that is not what she wants, she better leave him alone.
Its obvious He didnt love her, all he want is kid from her and then nothing more. He left his other wives cos he could not get them pregnant so definately he is the one with problem(s) i think he should take care of himself instead of looking for the new marriage