Thoughts on "Toxic People"
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9 years ago in #philosophy by clayboyn (70)
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Thoughts on "Toxic People"
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I'm working on parts of this; I am an innate fixer/helper/lover. I know that that also causes me to offer myself to people who don't need, want, or respect me along with everyone else, and I'm fine with it. I have enough for everyone. But perhaps I've been really lucky, as I've only had a few that have really manipulated and drank from the well until I've run dry. I'm starting to get better at letting go to keep myself safer so I can continue to help elsewhere. It's the tuning out part I'm not great with yet.
I know that feeling all to well. It usually leads me to start questioning if I'm letting go too early etc. I can't claim to have it down yet and it always hurts on some level, but I guess I'm at the point now that red flags mean stop and not charge, so I guess I'm getting better. I guess the fact that we still try at all is a good sign. Keep your head up, you do a lot of good for a lot of people. :)
Ugh yeah it's always tough to let someone go, some people don't want help and the best you can do is detach and hope in time they come around on their own.
That seems to be the same truth I've found too.
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Yesterday I saw a homeless guy and I thought he looked in pain and in need of help so I approached him and said, “You look like you need help. Do you want food?”.
“I want a drink” the homeless man replied.
I bought two carne asada quesadillas and two drinks.
“Hey man, I have your drink and brought you this carne asada quesadilla. I hope you like it”, I said to the homeless guy.
The homeless guy grabs the drink and grabs the to-go box that had the quesadilla. He takes a drink from the straw. He walks to a trash can. He takes another drink. He throws the quesadilla into the garbage. He looks at me and says, “I told you I just wanted a drink”, and he walked away.
Well, at least you tried. Maybe people bring him food all the time and no one brings him a drink? Either way, not very polite or grateful in my opinion.
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The picture is of Alice at the tea party with the mad hatter from Alice in Wonderland.
I understand
It's my personal belief clay that as long as we do our best, the outcome in the grand scheme of things is not as important.
Meaning, if we sincerely attempt to help someone, and they deliberately or not hurt is, the problem is on them, not on us. The desire to be good, the desire to give love has to come from a realization that we do not need reciprocity to enjoy it.
I don't love you with the expectation of you loving me back, like, this is not a transaction where I need my ROI. My love, my appreciation, my concern for your well being needs to be born from within me and is on its own the reward... the ability to give.
Long time ago... I thought to myself, why do I take on this "save this person" projects? do I like to torture myself? are these exercises in futility... and its only been in recent years that I understood that the problem was not my actions... it was not what I gave, it was what I expected in return.
Not that I wanted recognition, or a trophy or anything that shallow, more like I would setup myself for disappointment by expecting the results I imagined.
I try to eliminate that... expectation... I try to say, here is a seed of love, of understanding, of reason... if you water it, great! i'll be here to celebrate it with you, if you let it die... maybe... maybe I got another seed, but it will be on my terms.
I agree entirely. Learning to remove unhealthy expectations and assumptions took a while. I guess it just feels like I'm much quicker to remove people from my life now, but I guess the truth is their actions are usually what leads to the removal anyway, so in the end it just is what it is. No need to dwell on it.
Spoken like the wise man you are ;)
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The picture is of Alice at the tea party with the mad hatter from Alice in Wonderland.
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