The Dilemma of Being a Control Freak and Why You Should Chill Down!
Hello, dear friends!
A lot of people obsess over the idea that they may not be in control of everything that happens in their life.
These people have a hard time coming to terms with the reality of everything, thus making life difficult for themselves and those who come in contact with them.
Control freaks tend to go to extreme lengths in order to maintain their hold and dominion of literally everything that goes on around them.
They cannot bear the thought of having something in their lives that is not entirely at the mercy of their will.
Let us start from the beginning. In this life, there are a lot of things that are in your control.
For instance, you decide what to do with your life and how to spend your time.
You decide whether you want to use your time in productive and useful ways or waste it chasing down fantasies and strange pastimes.
You decide whether you want to continue your friendship with someone or not. You decide if you feel like eating that last piece of pizza from the fridge.
But as much as we enjoy our will on matters like this, we should accept the truth that not everything is within our control.
A lot of things happen in this world on a daily basis that we have no control over.
If a war breaks out in another country, you cannot do anything about it, even though you are influenced by it in one way or another.
When a member of your family becomes ill, you have no say in the matter, but you can try to take control of the situation.
You take them to see the doctor and try to treat them as best as you can.
Now, this time of measure means that you understand your responsibilities and take your obligations seriously. This merit is admirable.
But when you obsess over things that are not in your control and take drastic measures to make sure that they fall under your grasp, you are being a ‘control freak’ who needs to have everything sorted in their life.
You see, for some people, accepting the idea that some things are, despite their pride and strength, out of their control is an unimaginable and difficult feat.
These people try to assert their control by asking for irrational behavior from the people they know or are in a relationship with.
For instance, if they have a girlfriend, they try to assert their control by thinking about all the possible ways through which they could lose said girlfriend.
Then, they devise counter measures so that the things they have thought about never come to pass.
What they don’t understand is that all they do is ruin their relationships and make life difficult for everyone, including themselves.
The only way to avoid this tendency is to accept the fact that not everything is in our control.
And that is fine. We do not need to be in control in order to achieve success or accomplish anything in life.
The little control we have, and our ultimate will and resolve, can take care of everything and take us where we need to go. It will only be a matter of time.
Fight your insecurity about control and chill down to experience life in all its awe and wonder!
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Greeting @chbartist.
Excellent publication We concentrate so much on the variables, that we become one that we do not see, and we end up being the system error. we must concentrate on our best actions, in the situations that are within our reach, the rest will be resolved in its time and spaceHello,
yes, control freaks have mostly no trust as well, not in their life, not in their girlfriend and not in their self..
They stand still in their own evolution because controlling cost them most of their time.
Mostly they are over thinkers and very jealous individuals.
So let's realise some things we cannot control we need trust.
Have a great day
Tom
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Regards @chbartist for this great post. People tend to dominate their colleagues at workplace, school or a social gathering. I think this has to do with background. At homes, some children from start are being fed continously with that control mindset; such as that they need to dominate, control any situation they found themselves in, especially in the midst of their colleagues and so they grow up, thinking that this is the best way to live. They should just try to limit it and understand that too much control of situations can lead to someone becoming too domineering and in turn, it affects relationship drastically.
"Nobody can have it all." Check out this post for further knowledge on this: https://steemit.com/mindset/@comclick/nobody-have-it-all
While focus is imperative to achieve goals, one must have the flexibility to adapt and adjust to changing environments which we cannot control in order to ensure that our actions remain relevant to our goals. Once we realize we cannot control it all, our perspectives can allow us to adjust accordingly.
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Very well said that a lot of things happen daily in this world and we can't control everything. We should be happy the way it is and need to go with the flow.
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Control is a difficult subject to approach and one in which we need to find mediocrity, so as to avoid being the ‘control freak’. We should take control of those parts of our lives where the results are positive and benefit others and ourselves. We sometimes need to take control as parents and as good friends when we can see that other need us to take this position. Similarly we need to let others take control sometimes so they can learn, gain confidence and grow. Always be thoughtful with our power🙏
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Trying to get all the things from your motivation blog and making some law for better control life
@chbartist just awesome all things
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Saludos @chbartist. Por experiencia propia puedo confirmar que esta actitud es terrible. El controlador hace perfecta su vida pero al tratarse de los demás son desconfiados y sobreprotectores. Lo que no pueden controlar los desespera. No aceptan que hay cosas que pueden escapar del control, hacen de sus vidas y la de los demás un infierno. El secreto para corregir esta situación es la aceptación
Thanks for the motivation. I have learnt that some things are in my control and got to do something about them!
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