Even with the amazing payout potential that Steemit has I have witnessed first hand people who can't even bring themselves to make their first post.  This isn't the first time I have seen this level of hesitation.  I see it in business, with picking up women, and in sports.  

Fear of Rejection

Most people subconsciously fear rejection so bad that they are scared to try anything.  Now don't get me wrong.  No one likes being rejected.  Even successful people who can shrug it off and find the confidence to keep going forward don't like rejection. I'm not here to tell you that previous rejections haven't affected me.  When you get rejected it can take you down a notch mentally.   

I use the experience to reflect on the situation but some people get so caught up in the potential for rejection that their excuses are as long as a kid's Christmas list to Santa.  

Fearing Rejection In Business  

I run into prolific mental masturbators all the time when it comes to business.  Sometimes a reason not to focus on a business idea is legitimate and sometimes it goes back to the fear that you will have to go sell your product or service and that will come with rejections.  Also the premise of it is too far outside what they have been told their whole life.  "Go to school. Get a good job."  Unless you grew up in a family of entrepreneurs it is unlikely that starting a business will seem like a wise idea to anyone around you.  Your family may never be supportive no matter how much money the business makes. The sure sign of a person who fears rejection in business is someone who constantly talks about their business ideas to non-entrepreneurial people to somehow look for reassurance that it is a good idea.  I sort of went through this phase when I was a sophomore in college. 95% of people's opinion won't matter at this stage.  Consumer feedback would only make sense after you have a product or service.  Not when you have a vague idea for a business.  

Actionable steps have to be taken if you are serious at all about the business.  Registering domain names, getting logos designed, filing business entity paperwork, talking to suppliers, negotiating with manufacturers, ordering product samples.......etc.  JUST DO IT!  Crunch the numbers and JUST DO IT! 

Fearing Rejection In Sports

I would see this in junior high and high school where kids would just take themselves out of the equation and not come out for the team instead of working on their skills to improve.  I'm sure they would have loved to be one of the main guys on the team but it is easier to just quit and play a sports game on Xbox.  In college I would hear people say all the time that "they could have played in college but they wanted to focus on school."  I would just kind of laugh.  That line in reality translates to, "I wasn't good enough and was too lazy to improve." 

There is no shame in not being able to make a sports team in high school or college.  The numbers really whittle down.  Only 3% of high school athletes will play at the college level and a small fraction of those athletes will become professional athletes.  Trust me I have been cut several times from teams.  I have also made professional rosters and been released later on.  It doesn't feel good.  You can retire from that sport or keep going.  Either way could have value and is up to the individual.  The main point is that if you have a reasonable shot at improving and being a part of the team then why not go for it?  Don't fear that you might get cut so much that you don't even try for a sports team you really want to be on. 

Fearing Rejection With Women

I have probably been rejected 3,236 times.  

It really doesn't phase me anymore so much so that when the last chick I was hanging out with told me that she didn't feel an emotional connection to me and wanted to see other people I just started laughing. She was sort of nervous to tell me that because she didn't want to hurt me which was cool and was surprised I was laughing.  I enjoyed spending time with her and if she would have said she wanted to be more serious and be girlfriend / boyfriend I would have been down.  Despite all that her not wanting to hang out anymore for the time being wasn't a big deal.  This used to not be the case.  When I was in high school and into college I was worried about rejection.  Now if it happens I don't think too much about it and just say "NEXT." I'm not saying that to sound like an arrogant asshole.  I love women and treat them very well.  In that situation I just tell the chick that I really enjoyed spending time with them and if they change their mind to hit me up.  A lot of times they eventually do contact me again a couple months down the road.  

A lot of people never get over this fear of rejection from women.  There are a couple reasons why.  They never got rejected enough for it not to matter anymore is the main one.  Also they never continued to try to improve so that they would continually build more confidence.  Improvements could be physical, intellectual, or social.  If you start feeling better about yourself then women will be attracted by your confidence.  It really is true.  I know this sound corny but even though you might want to vent to a girl you are hanging out with but I have to remind myself that I live in Leave It To Beaver Land. I just act like everything is 100% positive.  I try to put a positive spin on everything.  And really it is true.  I'm a global one percenter who is healthy.  Really what more could I ask for. I don't say that out of arrogance or disrespect.  I got lucky that I was born in a country where I automatically inherited Trillions of dollars of infrastructure. Some places they struggle to have clean drinking water everyday.  That positivity will rub off as confidence.  In a world of trolls you have to ascend beyond everyone else's negativity.  

Circumventing Rejection 

I want to reemphasize that no one likes to be rejected. To minimize or make rejection invisible you can circumvent it all together and still get the things you are after.  It is also about efficiency.  

I look at professions like being a real estate agent, selling things door to door, or most financial advisers as a relic from the past.  It seems extremely inefficient and I'm surprised it hasn't completely been rendered obsolete.  

I circumvent business rejection by selling things online and only look at stats.  If my conversion is 10% on a listing or on my website I don't look at that as 90% of people rejected me.  If a person got rejected 9 out of 10 times face to face it would most likely upset them and take a mental toll on them even if they didn't want to admit it.  It isn't enjoyable to get rejected face to face.  

Circumventing rejection in sports is tough.  The only thing you can do is train harder and smarter than your competition and work really hard.  It really depends what level you are at.  Athletes in college have to make this decision all the time.  If you are a top recruit for a sport like basketball you could go to North Carolina and probably not see significant playing time until you are a junior.  Or you could go to another Division I program that doesn't have such a storied program and get playing time as a freshmen.  That is the choice Bonzi Wells made when he went to Ball State University.  He was able to shine there and ultimately went in the 1st Round of the 1998 NBA Draft.  If he would have went to a team like Indiana University, North Carolina, or Kentucky maybe he would have gotten lost waiting his turn to play and never reached his potential.  

Circumventing rejection with women has become a lot easier these days.  Did you ever go to Las Vegas thinking there were going to be beautiful women looking to hook up and in reality it was just packed with gold diggers and whores?  Literally every time I have went to Vegas with guys there are constantly legitimate whores coming up to me asking if I want to have a good time.  It got so bad that I had to start asking if they were escorts right off the bat.  I don't really care that they are escorts but personally for myself I consider myself a lion and lions don't eat road kill.  

You find yourself fighting through the bull shit in Vegas and every other city.  The girls have boyfriends or their friend is always trying to pull them away.  It just isn't efficient.  

Now you can get on apps like Tinder, Bumble, and Coffee Meets Bagel and automatically when you start matching girls you know these two things.  

1. They are single.
2. They find you attractive and you find them attractive. 

Once you meet them they aren't going to be with their friends who are constantly trying to pull them away.  

It is just so much more efficient and you can aggregate through so many more people.  It is the same as creating an efficient sales funnel.  Then when you randomly do meet girls at the bar or when you are out it is like an extra bonus.  

As an additional note on that.  I feel like Plenty of Fish and OKCupid are blown out unless you are looking for women 35+ which is fine.  The level of attractiveness doesn't seem to be as high on POF or OKCupid in my opinion either.  But what the hell.  Just get on everything and cast a large net! 

Final Thoughts

So you came here to know how to circumvent rejection on Steemit didn't you?  That is a tough one.  It won't be without risk.  Either a risk monetarily or a risk of your time which is valuable as well.  If you got "Bitty Rich" in another crypto coin surge like Bitcoin, Litecoin, Dogecoin.....etc you could wait for your opportunity to purchase STEEM on the cheap and power up basing most of your earnings focus on curation rewards. If you are an anonymous whale most people aren't going to give you flack for upvoting whatever post you feel will get you the best reward. Also your own vote counts for your own posts so if you power up enough value then you could be "paying yourself" back by posting and wouldn't have to worry so much about if a whale sees it.  You would be a whale.  

Most people aren't in a financial situation to do the first part so let's look at it from a demographic stand point.  A large majority of crypto-currency users are 18-45 and male.  That demographic seems to be in many things but you can kind of bet that right now they are into a lot of the same things you are into.  Women, computers, economics, crypto, space exploration, business, video games.....etc.  The user base on here is widening out but still the mass majority of people at this stage of Steemit's life are crypto-currency enthusiast or have a direct connection to someone who is into crypto.  But don't let that stop you from posting what you are passionate about.  All it takes is one whale to be into that as well or appreciate your passion for it and upvote you. One user in Texas just posts their morning smoothie everyday and makes good money doing it. @healthyrecipes   

If you are already posting, commenting, and upvoting on this platform you should congratulate yourself.  You have overcome a fear of post rejection that a lot of people are dealing with.  You also realize that other platforms like YouTube are like being thrown into the Pacific Ocean.  Steemit is like being thrown into a pond.  The payout potential is so much higher here for someone just starting out.  Welcome to the VIP! 

Thanks for viewing my post and please consider upvoting and following me!  @brianphobos