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RE: He Said / She Said - Managing Money
One of the great realities I learned about a relationship is that we both come into it with a lot of misconceptions....anxieties...ways of looking at life...most of us are trying to feel "secure" or for a man..."strong"...depending on ones upbringing....we can carry a lot of baggage....
In order to keep a lid on my fear...I felt a need to "control" things...money...kids...were the prime examples...
Fortunately I was willing to see my life...realize I wasn't the person I wanted to be and seek assistance...I have learned that the greatest gifts for a "real" relationship is the ability to be vulnerable and be safe communicating that...both male and female...if one achieves or works on that...the rest flows easier....
Indeed. I was taught that men don't cry and to be tough. I was able to break that paradigm. I do cry, I am vulnerable at times and I have learned how to express my feelings in a healthy way. It changed my life and also allowed us to reconcile our relationship.