Are You In A Relationship That Needs To Change?

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Think about what you would do if you were in an abusive relationship. Chances are you would be thinking that there must be a better way to handle things, because the abusive thing is getting out of control. You would probably want to see if there is a way to change the situation to the way you feel it should be.

However, if you try to initiate change without taking action you will be dealing with a whole lot of resistance. Your actions will get to be rejected and then you will become angry at yourself for not doing anything about it. All this does is cause more pain for you and your partner. Here's what you should do:

Find a solution that doesn't involve the same old relationship patterns. How can you have any power when you don't have anything to be angry about? If your relationship is based on resentment, hurt and pain then you will not be able to do anything about these things. In order to solve the problem, you need to stop being distracted by those things. All you have to do is go from one danger to another.

You also need to find something that gives you some sort of action. In other words, something that has some type of response. Without that response you will never have any real results and will be in a constant state of rage. However, if you are consistently trying to react to the anger and resentments, the action will not occur.

Now you can't actually force something to happen, but by putting some sort of limit on the reason you are angry you can allow it to be changed. By saying, "Okay, I will only get out of bed and get a shower and some exercise after I eat breakfast" you are forcing yourself to turn down thecue that is causing you to be angry. If you just say, "I will only get out of bed when I am hungry" that is just as good.

However, that still takes action, which your relationship will like and respond to. Once that reaction happens you have been given an opportunity to actually take action. This will help you get your rage out of your system and you will actually begin to change the relationship.

Of course, if you are going to take action you will have to be willing to take action and that requires that you actually take action. Take action today to change your life, no matter how long it takes.

You can't let anger and resentment control your life, so make sure you make it work for you. Instead of letting your anger control you, get your life on track and begin to be a successful person in it. Make sure you follow the advice that I have for you, so that you can finally live your life in peace.