Always envying other people's lives is equivalent to destroying your own happiness
Why is it hard for people who envy other people's lives to feel their own happiness?
There is a group of people in life who are always envious of other people's lives. They believe that they are in a very miserable state and use it to rationalize their motivation to envy others. Psychologists have found that people who are envious of others are destroying their own happiness with their own hands. No matter how much happiness they have, this category of people will be firmly denied by them as if they do not deserve it. For this type of people, no matter how many things they have, they are not enough to feel happy. The purpose of their lives is not to pursue happiness, but to try to protect themselves by "selling misery". What they lack is not only happiness, but also a sense of security.
The truth behind envy is jealousy
The truth behind envy is actually jealousy. Envy is actually the result of the rationalization of jealousy. If a person says that he is jealous of whoever, it means that this person has animosity towards others. This animosity is not recognized by the public and he must rationalize his animosity. When someone achieves something, he pretends to be very envious of others in order to hide his inner jealousy. Everyone is envious of other people's lives, as long as this envy does not destroy your own happiness. But people who are pathologically envious of others can hardly feel their own happiness. They will not feel happy because they have something, but will only ever envy and be jealous of others because they don't have anything.
Individuals' hostility toward others evolves into deprivation of others in the pursuit of the good life. Whether it is envy or jealousy, the ultimate goal is also to deprive others. For example, if a friend brings a gift to his house, he will pretend to envy others who have a better life than himself, and then in his heart he will blame him for bringing only one gift. By envying others, he creates a feeling that others are doing well and he is doing poorly, with the aim of making others help him unconditionally. Even if others are not willing to help themselves, they avoid the situation where others ask for help. It's not that they themselves are incapable of helping others, it's just that they have a sense of scarcity within them, and just helping others will intensify that sense of scarcity triggering anxiety.
Happiness is not a threat
Understand that happiness is not a threat, and that even if you are better off than others, they will not ask you for anything without a bottom line. Besides, you can protect yourself by having a sense of boundaries. Acknowledge that you are happy, and that you will be happier by helping others when they ask for something within your power. The happiness you get from helping others is far greater than the happiness you get from possessing something. By accepting that you are happy, you will gain greater power, and this power will lead you to create greater value. Conversely, denying your happiness is equivalent to denying the value of your self. It will also be difficult for you to build up in the future growth process.
In a word, people who envy other people's lives can hardly feel happiness. Only those who look at happiness rationally and objectively can gain the power of happiness.