How to Find Support Doing Things

In these times of high divorce rates, couples who are going through a marriage crisis need to find support. There is no shame in that, in fact, it's the smart thing to do. When someone is going through a difficult time, the last place they want to be is at home alone. It's a horrible feeling not knowing if your loved one is well and truly there for you when you need them. Here are a few things to keep in mind as you seek out the support you need.

Find support in a common interest. It might be a hobby that both you and your loved one enjoy doing together. If you have children, try to find support groups where you can have quality conversations about your divorce or marriage. You can also join a support group for other couples in your situation. By focusing on a common interest, you're less likely to feel alone in your struggles.

Don't feel like you have to make your situation a priority. When you are feeling overwhelmed by your situation, you may find yourself putting other things off. Putting things off only makes things worse. Instead of focusing on your inability to move on with your life, remind yourself that you are going to get past this and that you are going to get your life back.

Try joining a group for other couples going through what you're going through. This is a great opportunity for you to speak with others about your situation and ask questions. Ask questions that are specific to your relationship. Even if you don't learn anything new, you'll at least get a chance to share your views with people who care about you. Sometimes just sharing your feelings with people you trust and like is enough to help you feel better about where you're at in your marriage. It's a great way for you to get support for yourself.

If you feel comfortable asking for a group support session, you can do one on one consulting with a professional counselor. Counseling gives you the opportunity to speak face to face with someone who can tell you your personal story. You might not think that you're in a big crisis but sometimes talking with someone can help you figure out what your relationship is really about.

A group counseling session can be done over an extended period of time. Some people need their support to continue long after they have left the group. Even if you aren't ready to open up again with your partner, it can give you a great sense of security knowing that you're with people who understand what you're going through.

Asking for support group should never come on the heels of your having to ask for help yourself. After all, most people who are in crisis always seek some kind of support before they can truly get themselves into recovery. Sometimes it can be too late for people to reach out for help. So don't allow your need for a group to be used as an excuse not to get help.


There's nothing wrong with reaching out for support. If you're dealing with an addiction, an emotional trauma, or a loss of a job or a relationship, reaching out for support is the most caring thing you can do. You wouldn't dream of letting anyone else put you in a terrible situation. You know you're going through something difficult and reaching out for help gives you peace of mind. It gives you the courage to start looking for ways to get better and recover from whatever problem you're facing.