How Everyone Has Fears

Almost everyone has fears and insecurities regardless of how confident they may seem. It is natural to want to be liked and to feel good about yourself. Unfortunately, not everyone knows how to do that. Often times, women express fears regarding sharing their needs and desires with their significant other.


They worry that doing this will drive them away or make them feel unwanted. Despite the lack of proof, many are alone in this concern and doubt. If you are with a man and he seems aloof or shows little interest when it comes to your desires and needs, take heart; you are not alone.

Men may not be afraid to express their feelings and are often quite vocal about their fears and insecurities, especially when they are dating. It can be a challenge to have a man to open up and share his deepest emotions. Sometimes it feels like men are fighting to win a woman over instead of listening to what she has to say. He doesn't always feel comfortable talking about his fears, even if they are valid. Women have a much greater need to be valued, loved, appreciated, and understood. This is often where the tension and conflict arises.

Don't be afraid to talk to your partner about your fears. Even if he doesn't admit it, he likely has a handful of them. It is not his fault that you feel frustrated or angry. He too may be feeling the same things. A committed couple takes care of one another, and so it is important to help each other feel loved, accepted, and understood.

There are several resources out there for couples who are struggling with fear and insecurity. Some people choose to go it alone and seek advice from a counselor, while others feel more comfortable talking to their friends and family. While it can be tempting to keep your problems to yourself, it is much better for both you and your partner to gain support from each other. If your problems are serious, seek out therapy. Most women find that going to therapy will help them work through their issues and provide them with tools to help them better understand their fears. Many people find that talking to a close friend will also help.

One way to make sure you are able to get your partner to open up is to listen intently when he does speak. You want to ensure that he doesn't feel self-conscious. Often times women are afraid to admit that they are insecure or to have their fears expressed, but letting him know that you understand how it makes him feel good to hear from you is a great step in changing his view of you. He will be willing to do more to please you and will want to spend more time helping you with your issues.

Another way to help ease your partner's fears is to show him what will set him at ease. Often times, talking about his fear or talking about how it will make him feel different than usual will help him overcome his fear. Letting him know that you understand his fears will give him the confidence he needs to overcome his issue. You should always encourage your partner to do his best and if he is having issues talking to you, encourage him to tell you.


Dealing with your partner's issue will require patience on your part. There will be some days that he won't talk to you. However, if you continually try to talk to him and if you continue to push him to talk to you, he will eventually start to feel comfortable talking to you again. You should never try to force him to talk about his issue or else he will simply not feel safe doing so. Remember, everyone has a different opinion on how to fix things so just work together you and your partner will get there.