Dear Steemit Family : A Single Mom Needs Your Friendly Advice
Dear Steemit family,
I believe that this platform is not only a place for steem, money and cryptocurrences.
This community is sorrounded by amazing smart people that shares thier opinion,thoughts and ideas.
So I will take my opportunity to express here my feelings rather than keeping it alone and by my self.I consider my self as a loner and no family aside from my 3 children as Im a single mom.
I live far from my mother and she has a new family since I was 5 yrs old.All my life Im helping them and my sister nothing is left for me because I give everything to them .But the question is do they consider me as family when everytime I trust them I was put into risk and fail.I failed many times because of them because I trust them including financial matters.But lately I failed again because I trust my business to them to manage at province as Im at Manila and the RTW supply is here.Now Im facing serious customer complains because of improper management, they even steal stocks and money from the sales.I was being sabotage.It really hurts when they know that Im working very very hard for it night and day because Im a single mom.
I do not have friends because Im scared to trust and used to be always taking for granted being always kind so I decided not to make friends and live alone because I realized that at the end you will have no family and friends when you have nothing at all.
I thought that my 15 yrs old daughter can help me and will concern about me when she gets old because I raised her to be a kind and God fearing person but I was wrong she become hard headed and selfish and seems do not consider me as parent.
Now Im back to zero but Im never lossing hope Im a very possitive and hardworking person I found hope here at steemit that I can move on and recover.I cannot be an employee because nobody will take care of my young children.So Im crossing my fingers to work online but its not enough to educate ,pay bills ,feed , and rent.
So It comes into my mind to go back and start my RTW business as soon as I can payout here at steemit to sustain our needs.
Now heres the question that I need an advice...
- Well I still trust relative to manage my business at province? I need to get back in business because we are suffering now hunger.
2.Is it right that I will no longer talk to my mother and sister after they take me for granted again and again.I even give the house to my mom and to her new family that I invested even though that me and my children experience to live in the street because my mother told me that I have no right even I put my half million money to renovate that house.
3.Im tired of keep on nagging with my teen age daughter .Will I let her do what she wants to do than to keep me on nagging that can cause me stressed and deppression. I even talk to her properly like friends so many times but still not working.
Im really so confused that is why Im taking my chances to hear from you guys so that I will know what to do.
This means a lot to me by helping a loving mother who only wants to raise kids and to fulfill my responsibility as a mom.
Thank you so much steemit family that in this platform I feel better.
Sincerely,
Antonette
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bessy, im so sorry to hear that. I didn't know that you are in this very hard situation. I hope everything will be fine soon. Don't lose hope. Keep hoping each and everyday. Talk to your daughter to try to understand things is very difficult for you,that u need her, That you expect her to be by your side in this situation. Im sure she'll understand that. I have a niece who is 15 years old as well. Her father is a very iresponsible and a drug addict, only her mother who does everything for them. she has very matured mind. she takes care of her younger siblings,cook for them,take them to shower and etc. she is also studying and she's always in top 1. She makes grahamballs and sell it in school and make them rent her books to be able to help her mother. This kind of situation that you have right now will disappear soon. Trust god,trust yourself. i know you can do it! i know youre strong. Keep fighting! Anything we can do for you, we are just here. Aja!
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hi Antonette
This is to add to the already insightful thoughts from our fellow steemians here.
my thoughts for Q1: has the person (relative) earned your trust? is it partially? is it fully? Can the person be trusted only let's say in record keeping only and NOT on handling cash? Will you accept doing business with someone whom you trust partially only? If yes, what type of responsibility would you assign to that person?
💡a person who can be entrusted with little can be entrusted with more later
on Q2: A mother is always a mother, my grandma used to always say. At least model to our children. When the storm has passed, i am sure our mom and dad are one of the first in our thoughts to share our joy with.
💡A contributing factor to relational friction between parent and child begins when parents' mindset is that the child will one day become their atm machine. This mindset would then be passed on the next generation.
Q3 A weekly practical thing to do is to have an undivided, appointed time for the two of you. Listen to each other, talk about ur joys and fears etc. Key to success here is that mom and daughter time is pinned on both of ur calendar. As if you are having an appointment with lets say for example your favorite movie actor or actress. 1 hour of undivided attention work wonders.
💡Time = Love
You are strong mother and woman. YOU are good enough.
Bes, from your story, I think (opinyon ko lang ha) it's best for you to handle your own business. In the end, it's yours to grow. Because our culture puts emphasis on family relationship, we forget that business can be a tricky issue. Hindi porket family sila, yung sa yo, sa kanila na. You have your own family now. You should focus on them and not the people who have hurt you over and over again. Forgiving will set you free pero hindi ibig sabihin you should forget what they did. Rather, it should serve as your guiding experience on how to spot people to trust. Siguro sa ngayon, maiging magpahinga muna kayo. Pag humupa na yung mga damdamin nyo, then perhaps it's time to talk and be honest with each other. As for your daughter, siguro she's going through something she doesn't know how to deal with kaya she's lashing out. You were once a teenager. Go back to how you felt then, what your issues were, etc. Then talk to your daughter. Don't be confrontational because it will only lead to her being defensive. Mag-usap kayo ng maayos. Ask for her understanding and offer yours in return. Share a part of you with her baka it will help her see where you are standing from. Good luck! Best wishes :) and welcome to the community!
Im sorry that this happened to you Antonnete. If I'm in your situation, hayaan ko na sila. we only live once. They are grown adults. Your family is not your responsibility. about your teen daughter, she will learn her lessons. If you keep nagging, the more she will continue her behaviour. Let her do her stuff, and if she makes a mistakes, she will come back to you and say sorry. Hang in there and do the things what you know is right.
hi Antonette, well, I think life is just hard sometimes. It's how you deal with it that matters. u are a fighter and so, i think as long as u fight, u can win eventually.
My daughter is only 12 now, but I also fear the coming days.. she already has some attitude. I feel ur pain..
Don't give up. Just do what u need to.. to keep going.. TeamPI and steemit are here for u.. :)
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STOPBetter if do your business where you currently at so that you can at least check it or handle it. It is sad but sometimes we can trust other people more than the relatives.
Keep giving lectures to your daughter cause I think that is better than just letting her be in a wrong direction. Sooner or later at least you can tell her that you did and said everything to help her be in the right path. Try to check out her friends as well and the environment she is in to somehow know why she is misbehaving.
Hello @antonette. I fwd this post to my friend @disarrangedjane. -ch @globocop