Steem4nigeria Accelerator Contest Week 109: Letting Go

Greetings beautiful people. It’s been a while and it’s good to be back to be a part of this great content on letting go.

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What do you understand by the subject matter; Letting Go

Somethings are very vivid and as clear as crystal and so is this subject we are looking at right now. The subject of letting go. Just lately I was asking myself when is it right to let go or to keep holding on and then this topic of discussion popped up.

Letting go is simply as the name is. It’s that moment when we have to release a particular thing or person. Letting go is simply losing our holds or coming to the point of casting off restrain. When you let go of something, you are releasing it from your grip. It can be a thing, a person, a mindset or a thought pattern and it can even be a job or a combination of one or more of the above. We are simply saying I’ve held on too far or too much and it time to move on or move ahead. At this juncture, we let go.

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Have you had any experience where you had to let go of something?

Yes, countless times I’ve had the experience where I had to really let go. I had to use the word really because sometimes most of us say that we have let go of something or someone but in reality, it’s still lurking or locked up somewhere in our emotions and in our heart or mind while we profess we’ve let it go.

I have had to let go of a very toxic relationship that I found myself into some years ago. The interesting thing is that I didn’t even know it was toxic until I had let go. The truth is that each and every one of us are so special that we don’t deserve to be treated less than we should be. Sometimes neediness and not knowing our self worth makes us want to settle for less.

I had to endure all sort of stupid treatment just in the name of love or stupidity as I see it right now. May we never be in a situation or situations where we have to beg to be loved. Let toxic people meet their fellow toxic people and let them be a match to each other while the good people meet good people and let them be a good match for each other. May we never be a victim of toxic people all in the name of love or relationship.

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Why and how do you know it was time to let go

I endured premium shege for a long while and when I came to the point where I was given silent treatment for one month, I knew something wasn’t right. I decided to talk to a senior colleague of mine who when I started downloading for him all that I was going through in the hands of the so called relationships couldn’t help but scream.

The amazing thing was that I was actually defending the actions of the other party until my eyes were opened to an elaborate explanation of how I have been in a toxic relationship and didn’t even know. I was hoping that the human being would come around and change for good someday. The senior colleague I spoke to opened my eyes to see fifteen red flags and counting in a so called relationship that I was in. He told me to stop making excuses and that it was time to walk away.

He told me what will happen if I eventually walk away and he was right. I cried and cried but I had to. I served myself breakfast and was heart broken and it didn’t even mean much to the other party and that was the level of the toxicity that I was inside. Well, it took me months to heal but I am glad that I finally got healed and I had to really let go. It wasn’t easy but it was worth it and that decision has been one of the best decisions of my life.

Sometimes letting go is really the way out as opposed to not giving up. Sometimes we really need to give up, give in and let go.