Shit's not funny when it gets really real
A while back, I was dating this really toxic girl.
She was just this girl who was a real handful as a girlfriend, so much so friends were telling me to dump her ass. I too, remember feeling very burdened by her as she was always pissed off, finding fault and emotional over everything.
So near the end of the relationship, shit was getting really bad.
We were fighting everyday.
Her being her, she would be unreasonable, act self-entitled and was just plain shouting, screaming and hurling profanities non-stop.
One day, she belittled my late dad.
Yeah. For real. It was that bad.
I pretty much had it then. I remember texting her that I was done and that she was a terrible person. I really just wanted to stop being with her.
Later that night, out of nowhere, she showed up at my place crying.
She started saying how she didn't mean all the shit she said. She seemed hysterical even.
Then she grabbed one of my glasses, smashed it and start to slit her wrist.
I fucking flipped out and panicked!
I quickly grabbed a towel and put pressure on her wound.
Everything was okay in the end.
But boy was I scared out of my mind!
So here's the thing: Whenever we get angry or emotional, we tend to say a lot of things we don't mean. That is too easy.
Shit's not funny when it gets really real.
Sure, I was mad at her for belittling my dad.
I harbored some angry thoughts about her, like "Fuck her! I hope she dies!"
It was easy to think that way, or say shit like that.
But when it happens right in front of you... it gets really scary. It's not funny anymore.
How many of you have faced such a dire situation?
How many of you have been in a situation where real lives are at stake?
How many of you have caught yourself thinking, "Oh shit, this is REAL!" when things you heard stories about actually start happening to you?
Trust me, you don't want to be that situation.
It's way too easy to think and say things you don't mean today. It's another story altogether when it really happens.
I trust that you're a good person.
You wouldn't even wish your deepest pain on your worst enemy.
It takes a certain kind to cross the line.
And they're already not happy with their lives.
That is why you simply try to be positive and focus on being your happy yourself.
Don't waste time building up negative energy to wish pain on others.
Peace,
Alden
I wouldn't ever let it get that far theres too many women out there for all that.
Wow, I have been in similar situations, and it''s really tough. In the end I've had to stop trying to take care of toxic people though, although truth be told ,there was always something in it for me. like my crazy violent ex-girlfriend, who I did love, and I had the best sex ever with her. If not, leaving would have been easier. She was also suffering badly, but at some point she went too far, and my feelings died, although not totally. But we have to be able to protect ourselves from people who will do nothing but fuck up our lives.
And if we want to help such people, we need to make strict borders from an early stage, and help them in a more detached way. We can not help people if we get fucked up ourselves.
Indeed... Nicely said.