MONEY AND MARRIAGE

INTRODUCTION
Hello friends in steem4nigeria, you all are highly welcome to participate in this contest. I've heard and see so many things about what money can do in all aspects of our lives and people around us.
I've been pondering over these two things "money and marriage" how they relate like pairs of shoes untill I see it as a contest today. I thank steem4nigeria for this title for I'll write it vividly.

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IS MONEY CENTRAL TO FAMILY HAPPINESS?

My answer is no! Money cannot make a family to have true happiness because I've seen some families with lots of money but they are not happy.
The picture above represents lovers of today professing love to each other with attachment of money. This shows that when that money is exhausted, the love also goes away. So, money is just part of the things that makes family happiness and not central. What could that be? Love!
Love unites the family and brings real happiness. With genuine love in the marriage, both couples will be able to endure any trial and tribulations they face in life and still be happy. When marriage is built on money, most of our women will respect and behave with their husband according to the amount of money he has and the man also will be with the woman because he has what it takes to keep her and not because he finds happiness in her.

The previous contest " transparency in marriage" showed how couples could easily get divorced all because of secrets. This means that even with money, they still can't be happy or save their marriage. We need love to be central and love move us to be open with our spouse.

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The picture above shows a couple being very happy laughing out loud with each other.
That house is not a standard house but they are happy because love rules their marriage and they are contented with what they have.

Imagine getting married to a wealthy and nagging partner, that experience can make you insane and when you are insane, how will you make use of the money?

WHAT ARE SOME COMMON MONEY RELATED ISSUES AMONG COUPLES IN YOUR AREA? DOES THIS HAVE ANY CULTURAL UNDERTONE?

Some related issues are the wife packing all her belongings to her parent's house because they no longer have a certain amount of income again while in the other family, the husband leaves because he has alot to spend on other women.
Another experience I witness was a man burning down the mini mart he paid for his wife all because two days sales records was not seen.
Money has always been issues in the family and never a central of happiness. With love, the partners will always listen to each other and solve problems amicably.
IS IT A CULTURAL UNDERTONE? No it's not. It's individual behavior and qualities. this aspect sometimes is emotions related.

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HOW WILL YOU DEAL WITH A SITUATION WHERE THE SPOUSE FEELS THAT YOUR MONEY IS OUR MONEY BUT MY MONEY IS MY MONEY?

Interesting! I'll really feel bad because it's greediness that turns the better part of a man into being self centered.
I will feel being cheated on and being oppressed or even being taken for granted. If such thing happens, my money can never be our money again untill the other partner makes things equal.
Even kids of today wisen up. If you keep on getting things from them without giving, you will be noted and dealt with in their own way.
So, whatever you feel it's good to be done to you, also do it to others and don't be tricky.

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That is how greedy people end up when they want to take everything all alone. It's ridiculous.

IN YOUR OPINION IS THE WIFE OBLIGATED TO SUBMIT HER SALARY TO THE HUSBAND AT THE END OF THE MONTH?

None of the above! let's keep our money in our pockets but contribute to the family needs. The wife is not obligated to submit her salary because we all have our challenges, aims and goals to meet. We sometimes have an emergency which the husband will not hasten up to take care of as the wife may. He may claim to be busy in making transactions when the need arises.
Another reason why the wife should not submit her salary to the husband is because an unfaithful partner will use the money with another woman and or spend it recklessly with no investment.
He can also be duped if not careful by trying to invest in wrong business since it's not his money.
If you don't have access to your money, your partner will take it as an advantage to oppress you.

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WHY IS MONEY SUCH A BIG ISSUE IN MARRIAGE LATELY? WHAT MEASURES WILL YOU TAKE TO MITIGATE THIS PROBLEM?

Money is an issue in marriage now because the demands is high and so everybody wants to meet their needs. Alot of things now has increased in cost and people seems to rely on money.
Lack of money in marriage cause separation and breakups. Partners live each other because they think they've found a better person to solve their problem living the other fraustrated.

WHAT MEASURES COULD BE TAKEN?
I don't think there is a particular solution to this money issues in marriage. It's left for every family to decides to make money to be central to their family happiness or not. As far as there is no understanding, the problem will continue.

For me and my family, the measure I will take to mitigate the issues are; allow love to lead, understand my spouse in terms of handling money and know when he has the money to avoid requesting at the wrong time.

CONCLUSION

finally I want to thank all participants and steem4nigeria for this opportunity. Recently, Money and marriage has been like two parrarell lines that can never meet.we have to create family happiness by not making money the central !
I want to invite these steemans to also participate.
@josepha, @goodybest, @manuelhooks @richy20. @emultiplex

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